My Personal
Ethics
“Integrity is doing the right thing,
even if nobody is watching.”

My personal ethics is an
important aspect of My role as a Lifestyle and Professional
Dominatrix. It is the core of My being and without strong
personal ethics, I would not be blessed with the devotion of My
slaves and submissives.
A couple of general points about domination
first before I mention specifics about My
ethics:
1. True dominance comes when
a Dominant is able to master and control themselves first,
everything else becomes a natural progression. A Dominant
who rants, raves or punishes a sub when angry is totally
out of control and that is the exact opposite to what BDSM
is about. BDSM is NOT an excuse for abuse and if you cannot
control yourself, how are you expected to control your
sub?
2. Domination is not just
about the technical know-how of your craft – anyone can
learn the technique if they apply themselves. It is the way
in which you approach, feel, and subsequently apply your
skills which is highly significant. Domination is not about
going through the motions. “Acting” may serve as a
temporary reprieve however, if you do not have the love and
enthusiasm from your heart, soul and mind for what you do,
the outer shell of pretence will eventually crack and
expose the insincerity within.
The following
qualities are the basis of My personal and professional ethics
and that is the perspective I am writing from. Having said
that, I do expect My submissives to possess the essence of such
qualities themselves. Many of these are interrelated and they
are not in any order of preference as I consider them all to be
of equal importance:
RESPONSIBILITY
“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not
enough; we must do.”
When
submissives offer their submission to Me, I consider it a
precious gift and I never see it as an automatic right. With
that gift comes a great deal of responsibility – the well being
of My submissives now falls upon My shoulders.
TRUST
“Without trust, words become the hollow sound of a wooden gong.
With trust, words become life
itself.”
Without trust,
there can be no Dominance or submission. Implicit trust from
both sides is absolutely essential for total submission or
Domination to take place. My submissives need to feel that they
can trust Me implicitly and I am always conscious of their
dependence on Me to protect them, especially when they are at
their most vulnerable during play. They cannot truly be
themselves if they cannot completely let go of their
inhibitions due to lack of trust.
COMMUNICATION
“Self-expression
must pass into communication for its
fulfilment.”
So very
important – without it, situations become misconstrued,
directions become unclear and mistakes will happen. Personal
growth for My submissives cannot happen without good, clear,
concise communication, nor can O/our understanding of each
other evolve.
RESPECT
“Respect
yourself if you would have others respect
you.”
Respect given,
will be returned in kind. You cannot demand respect, it will
come to you when you deserve it. If I want My submissives to
respect Me as a Domme, I give the same level of respect to
them. I EARN My respect from them in return by what I
do.
HONOUR &
INTEGRITY
“Nobody
can acquire honour by doing what is wrong.”
“Never separate the life you live
from the words you speak.”
My actions
speak louder than words. My submissives will expect Me to keep
My word and they know that when I tell them I will do
something, it WILL happen. My policy is to not to say anything
I feel I cannot follow through. I remain honest in all I do for
Myself and for My submissives. There is no point in cheating or
making shallow promises, you only end up short changing
yourself and your reputation. Honour and integrity in turn
builds greater trust and respect.
COMPASSION
“If you
light a lamp for somebody, it will also brighten your
path.”
My submissives
need Me to understand that they are real people with real
feelings and needs just as much as I am. I show interest in
what they do and in the events which occur in their lives.
Listening and responding to their needs makes My D/s bond with
them stronger and more profound.
CONSISTENCY
“There
must be consistency in
direction.”
As a Mistress,
I have to be consistent in how I treat My submissives. Nothing
confuses a submissive more than when their Domme keeps moving
the goal posts or punishes for a misdemeanour on one occasion
and not for the same misdemeanour on the next. I avoid placing
conflicting demands upon My subs and I give equal rewards when
I am pleased with them.
HUMILITY
"We come
nearest to the great when we are great in
humility."
As
a Mistress and a person (because the two are intertwined),
I realise I will not always be correct. As much as I learn and
become proficient within My craft, life in all its richness and
knowledge is a continuous learning experience and there is
always more I can learn and improve upon. My submissives know
that on the rare occasion if I make a mistake, they will get an
apology from Me as they rightly deserve. The lesser Dominant in
My view is the one who cannot even admit their mistake in the
first place.
SAFETY
“Safety
doesn't happen by
accident.”
In My capacity
as a Lifestyle and Professional Mistress, it is imperative to
be well aware of the potential damage I can cause to My
submissives. I thoroughly acquaint Myself with the possible
dangers involved with the different BDSM activities I engage in
and I do not take unnecessary risks. My First Aid skills are
kept up-to-date and I take every care to ensure My submissives
are not injured during play. My motto here is: Prepare and
prevent, don't repair and repent!
In Conclusion
These are the
ten values I highly regard and I do My utmost to follow these
principles, not only for Myself but for My slaves and
submissives. Now is the perfect opportunity to thank My slaves
and submissives for entrusting Me with their beautiful gifts of
submission.
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